A couple of weeks ago you asked me this question.
At the time I fumbled through a few not very well thought out answers, we laughed, we cried some (happy tears!), we prayed, and then we called it a night. But that question hasn’t left my head for more than a few moments since that night.
We joked about how I’d have to give it to you in writing, because I need a lot of time to sit with big questions before giving an answer I am proud of. At the time, it was just a joke but you deserve an honest, well thought out answer which I hope I can give you here.
I want to marry you for a lot of reasons.
And honestly, I can only begin to tap into the depths of those reasons because the longer I know you, the longer that list grows.
I want to marry you because you are entirely made up of constant, steadfast love – just like God says He loves us. You exude patience and kindness and gentleness, which is such a beautiful reflection of how God has shaped your heart to look like His. My heart rests so comfortably in yours and I’m not sure anything has ever felt sweeter.
Speaking of God, you’re allowing him to do so much in you and with you and through you and I love getting to walk alongside you in that process. I told you this the other night as well but I have loved seeing you enter into the image I had always known you could be as a man of God. You have come alive in such a beautiful way, you bring life and love and bear good fruits as a result of surrendering yourself to Him.
I want to marry you because I love who we are when we’re together and I love seeing how we’ve changed each other for the better.
We’ve grown so much into the people I think we want to be and who we’re supposed to be by being with each other and by knowing each other. It still baffles me to think about who I was 3 years ago when I met you and who you were when you met me – and where we are now. Not to be dramatic, but it seriously BLOWS. MY. MIND. We don’t feel like the same people at all and that’s because we aren’t. We’ve changed a lot but in really good ways by being together even just in 3 years and I’m excited to see how that furthers after 50 years!
I want to marry you because for us it’s never been about the big things.
We have more fun just going for a walk or perusing a bookstore than we do getting dressed up and having a fancy “date night.” Admittedly, love feels much more simple than I ever envisioned it feeling with you but I kind of love that. That said, I don’t think we’re ever going to be upset about a fancy date night…as long as we can come home and watch Netflix and snuggle in our sweats afterward 🙂 . My new definition of love feels much comfier with you.
I want to marry you because you are patient, you’re kind, you aren’t envious, you don’t boast, you’re humble, not rude, never self-seeking, not easily angered, you keep no records of wrong…
And as the Bible tells us, that kind of love never fails.
I’ll never know the reason why God entrusted me to get to love you but I can promise I’ll never take it for granted.
I love you. And despite the unknowns that come with embarking on the journey of matrimony and building a life together, I trust you and I trust the God that made you, to never lead me astray.
I’m so excited to marry you.
– Your Girl
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